Perfectionism

Say you’ve spent all week on a project, submitted it for approval, and it has red marks all over it.

Not only are you upset, you may feel devastated.

Maybe your self worth is wrapped up in academics or your work life.

Constantly needing to do better, be better, and succeed gracefully (even if only on the outside). You’re not alone in this.

Do you sometimes ask yourself, “Am I a Perfectionist?” or say “Why would I even try to speak up? I’ll sound dumb.”

Maybe you feel a pressure to keep up with The Jones’.

Others may have said you have a need to people please.

Looking for a perfectionism therapist for online sessions or in Alpharetta?

Let's work together!

What can perfectionism look like?

Idea of being perfect/without flaws
Impossibly high standards (for self and/or others). These standards are unrealistic and unattainable
Never being disagreeable
Proving ourselves over and over again
Being hard on ourselves
Burnout
Not asking for help
Fear and anxiety, maybe even imposter syndrome
No risk-taking

As a recovering perfectionist, I tend to resonate with having high standards and being hard on myself.

Maybe you’ve said to yourself “If I’m not exhausted by the end of my day, I didn’t do enough.” or “I have to exceed everyone’s expectations to prove myself.”

What can perfectionism affect?

Professional success
Parenting
Physical appearance
Academic success
Athletic ability/fitness goals
Physical environment
Lifestyle

Are you also a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)? Perfectionism and HSP traits can be linked for some people.

What change can look like:

being kinder to yourself
setting realistic expectations for yourself and others
less bullying in your head
changing your mindset to be more realistic with various life situations
working to lessen the unhelpful parts of perfectionism like avoidance or the strict rules for your life, that you made up in your head
asking for help before you drown in your workload
setting healthy boundaries for yourself and with others
less bottled up frustration
letting go of the badge of honor of “being perfect”

What can I expect in sessions?

First, you will attend a 80 minute intake session where we’ll explore your background history and we’ll set some tentative goals. Then we’ll schedule out a few future 50 minute sessions to start working on your goals.

Sessions will occur online as we explore your concerns, possibly using books/workbooks or creative means, process life together, and at times have homework to make sure your new skills stick.

It may take time, but the changes are worth it. It took years to set these expectations in place, let’s work to make sure your thoughts and actions feel more reasonable for you. We’ll overcome your perfectionism together.